Soul Talk


Have you ever had a soul talk with yourself?

My husband mumbles and talks to himself sometimes. I usually cannot hear what he’s saying and when I ask, he says “...never mind, I was talking to myself.”

We all do it.  Maybe it’s reminders to do something or replaying conversations where you wish you’d said this or that. But the most important conversation is when your inner voice or critic tells you things about yourself. Things like:

“I always say the wrong thing.”

“I’m so dumb.”

“I can’t do anything right.

“I hate my body.”

How you talk to yourself matters. If this is the kind of communication you are having with yourself it’s time to change the conversation and teach yourself how to have a soul talk. In Psalm 103 we see David’s soul talk.

It begins like this:

“Bless the Lord, oh my soul,

Forget not all His benefits.”

He tells his soul it’s time to bless the Lord and remember what God says about him, his situation and his life.  In verse 3-5 David lists the benefits.

I am forgiven.

I am healed.

I am redeemed from destruction.

I am crowned with lovingkindness and tender mercies.

I am satisfied with good things.

“Bless the LORD, O my soul; And all that is within me, bless His holy name! Bless the LORD, O my soul, And forget not all His benefits: Who forgives all your iniquities, Who heals all your diseases, Who redeems your life from destruction, Who crowns you with lovingkindness and tender mercies, Who satisfies your mouth with good things, So that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.”

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭103:1-5‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

When you have a soul talk with yourself, start teaching that inner voice how to speak to you. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you.

Last year, I created a confessions list as a guide for my personal soul talk. It included things that were important to me as confessions and declarations.

I looked at the confession list every day and said it out loud. I even recorded it so I could listen to it. On the list were goals that I felt God had given me and gifts that I believe God wants me to be empowered with and operate in. Here are some of my daily confessions that make up my soul talk with myself.

The words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart will be acceptable to the Lord.

The favor of the Lord surrounds me like a shield.

I am meditating in the Word of God day and night and dealing wisely with all of my affairs.

The Lord satisfies my desires with good things, and my youth is being renewed.

I am anointed by the Holy Spirit for ministry and the gifts of miracles, faith, discernment, prophecy, words of wisdom and knowledge are operating in me.

My faith overcomes anything and everything that tries to overcome me.

I am called to write and be an inspiring woman.

I have ears to hear the voice of the Lord.

I am created by God to prosper and live an abundant life and make a difference in this world.

It’s a long list and these are just a few but you get the gist.

I don’t have to encourage you to talk to yourself because everyone does, and often what you say is said in your subconscious.  When your inner voice speaks to you, you believe what that voice says more than any other person. What I hope to do is encourage you to change how you talk to yourself. Make a list of the things you need to say to yourself based on God’s Word and the leading of the Holy Spirit. Start teaching your inner voice what to say that lines up with God’s calling and words.

What has he called you to do? What weakness do you need to speak to? Frame it as a confession or declaration you make about yourself.  I believe if you do this for 40 days it will be transformative for you. It will become the narrative recorded in your subconscious and effect you in powerful ways.

Take some time to have this kind of soul talk with yourself. Words are powerful, so transform what you say to yourself. Make your confessions list and use it everyday for 40 days. Get ready to see some amazing things happen.

Invest in yourself!



Investing in yourself sends a powerful message to your community, family and tribe. If you want to be inspiring to others start by investing in yourself.


Learn to place a high value on yourself. God values you a great deal. Honor your potential enough to set aside time and energy and it will pay dividends in the year to come. There is a reward that comes from investing in yourself.


You can make decisions today that will greatly impact the whole year.


Here are 10 ways you can invest in yourself:

  1. Set aside time for yourself early in the morning. A few quiet minutes and cup of coffee or tea. A devotional time can change the energy of your whole day.
  2. Sleep well, eat well. If you have lots of demands on your day.  An extra hour of sleep and eating healthy foods will do more for you than late night Netflix and fast food binge. It’s called beauty sleep for a reason.
  3. Set smart goals and establish reasonable priorities. The things you value most in life don’t get done when your life is set on cruise control.  Be more than intentional about the things that are the most important—in family and business. Smart goals—specific, measurable, attainable, reasonable and timely.
  4. Educate yourself. Read books & listen to podcasts often. You can listen on your commute but whenever you do it, have a set time. This is your growth investment.
  5. Make connections. Go to conferences, retreats and attend church regularly. Be part of a group that challenges you and stretches who you are and how you define yourself.
  6. Find a mentor or coach. Get close with someone you can learn from.  What area do you need help in—health, finances, leadership, parenting or marriage. Choose someone who can help you step up to a higher level.
  7. Be creative. Make a creative space in your life for writing, art and music. It’s a right brain activity that pulls you away from the analytical, busy left side of the brain. Doing creative activities will help reduce stress in your life and bring calm to your mind.
  8. Exercise. Your body was made by God for motion.  If you need strength, stamina and endurance you have to make demands on your body to get there.
  9. Choose to be happy.  Happiness doesn’t come find you. You must choose it.  Sometimes you must fight for it too.  Don’t settle for anything less than God given joyful living.
  10. Rest. Downtime. Sabbath.    Honor the sabbath time.  Jewish tradition taught women to double up the day before so they could rest on the sabbath. It’s not a bad concept and God approved. Make a set time to chill every week.


“God can pour on the blessings in astonishing ways so that you’re ready for anything and everything, more than just ready to do what needs to be done. “ 2 Corinthians 9:8

Make the days count.


Time. We all struggle with managing the time we are given. We each get the same amount everyday but not all get the same number of days. I just read a Facebook post about a young mom of four children who lost her battle with cancer. Her life race is finished far too soon.

A few days before Christmas I said goodbye to my 84 year old mother who passed away. She had a full number of days and lived to see her great-great grandchild born. We don’t know the number of our days but God does. He holds each one in His hands. How we use the time we are given in this life is so important.

The Bible says, “Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” Psalm 90:12 NIV

I struggle with managing my time. My days are sometimes eaten up with the mundane stuff of life while the important things I want to do sit waiting for me.

King Solomon wrote, “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens” Ecclesiastes 3:1 NIV

In a few days we begin a new year—2018.  There are some important things I want to do this year. Complete The Beautiful Life writing project, and do more Nspire Women podcasts. That’s on top of the list of essentials life priorities like my relationship with the Lord, my health, and my family. I must also make time to manage all the details of our home and the business of our daily lives.

It’s a constant struggle to balance all these demands. Yet the Lord has a plan for us and it’s up to us to order and manage our days to match them.

I’m counting on the promises “The steps of a good man are ordered by the LORD, And He delights in his way.” Psalms 37:23 NKJV


“In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps.”  Proverbs 16:9

I know the vision and plan God has revealed to me but their are many daily assignments yet to be revealed. As I start this new year we begin with a 21 day fasting and prayer season.  It’s personal tradition to wait on the Lord and dedicate the first weeks of the year to seeking Him.

I got a shiny new calendar and journal in preparation.  The tools of planning. I use my iphone and app tools too.  It’s up to me to make the choices that result in obedience to the vision God is calling me to. Will I number my days? Will I let my steps be ordered by God or will I be procrastinating and distracted by other things?

 My Prayer:

Lord, let me see your vision for this year. Teach me. Reveal your plans. Help me to follow your steps. Let all my steps be established. Help me find a time for every good thing and be organized in all my ways.

The Beautiful Life Project

I want to cast a vision for Nspire Women.  I dream of producing something of value, not just for our group but to share with women around the globe.

Our organization has global ties to Mexico, India, Africa and Thailand.  The potential for building a global community exists. I have a project idea and I want you to be a part of it.

I’m calling it The Beautiful Life: Lessons from the Beatitudes.

I want you to help write a Bible study series on the Beatitudes passage and a companion devotional guide for women to use. You would be assigned a lesson or a short devotion to write. This work would be created by a collection of writers in our organization producing material that would be free and downloadable. It would be teaching material that could be used for a study series in your church and by leaders anywhere and everywhere. I want us to write it and sponsor its translation into many different languages.

How can you be a part of this project?

1.       Join Network of Ministers.

2.       Pray for The Beautiful Life Project.

3.       Sign up for a writing assignment.

The official launch date of this project is August 8, 2017. My plan is to have a completed teaching series ready to dedicate and send by our Annual Gathering in 2018. This is an exciting opportunity and I want you to have a part in it. Let’s do this together.


Welcome to Nspire

Nspire is here to empower, encourage and inspire women in ministry.

If you are a ministry leader or pastor’s wife this blog and podcast is for you.

This group is supported by Network of Ministers, a network for ministers and pastors.

I’m glad you came to visit and I hope you will find inspiration for your life. I am Susan Conatser and I have served at a pastor’s wife for 40 years.  I’ve raised two amazing children while working in many roles of leadership.

There were many times during those years that I searched for encouragement and insight from the sisterhood of women who were experiencing the same challenges I faced.

At the same time, I didn’t feel I could reveal to anyone the deep loneliness and isolation being in a leadership role can produce. I didn’t always find the support I needed but did have some wonderful mentors and role models to inspire me.

My mission today is to create a community and resource for women in ministry roles. I want Nspire to be a place you can come to to find encouragement when you are facing challenges. A place for motivation and ideas to help you become a better leader. A resource to help you create a community of faith that is rich and flourishing for you.  Yes, there are problems to solve, obstacles to overcome and difficult people to deal with but you can do this and Nspire is here to help.